In society today, marriage is often equated with success. When you’re single past a certain age or a single parent, you can fall into the trap of thinking you’re in a waiting season.
If that’s how you consider your single status, you are missing out! Living (and loving) during this season is possible!
But it takes a mindset shift. It’s hard to accept where we are at sometimes. But the truth is, we can only control so much.
The rest is up to God, who knows what we need and when we need it. So keep trusting Him with your future. Trust that He will see you through this season of singleness and bring you to a better place. It will not be easy, but it will be worth it!
Lean on Him during this time, and He will never leave your side.
Steps to Accepting Your Single Season
Acknowledge your feelings – don’t try to ignore them or bottle them up
When you feel like everyone around you is in a relationship, finding someone for yourself is tempting, no matter what. But that almost always leads to disappointment.
Instead, acknowledge your feelings instead of ignoring them. Trying to push away your sadness or loneliness will only make it harder to deal with in the long run. It’s okay to feel sad or lonely sometimes – these are normal emotions that everyone experiences. However, by acknowledging these feelings, you can begin to accept them and move on.
In time, you might find that being single isn’t as bad as it seems. There are plenty of benefits to enjoying your own company and being independent. Also, remind yourself that life won’t always be like it is now and that things will get better in time.
Talk to someone About It
One way to help cope with being single is to talk to someone about it. Talking to a friend, family member, therapist, or even an online support group to help you feel less alone. It’s also helpful to understand that others have gone through or are going through similar things. It can also help you work through negative feelings about being single and hear another perspective.
Use a journal For your thoughts and feelings
Journaling can be a cathartic experience and help you better understand your feelings about being single. Writing in a journal can also help you to see your situation in a more positive light. You may realize that being single gives you the freedom to do things you wouldn’t be able to do if you were in a relationship.
Accepting being single is a process, but writing in a journal can help you to move through this process more smoothly.
Exercise to help manage your emotions
One way to do this is to exercise regularly or participate in other forms of self-care. Exercise can help release endorphins, improving your mood and boosting your energy levels. For example, walking or lifting weights helps me calm my heart and body down to normal levels whenever I’m upset or angry.
Additionally, self-care can help you to feel more empowered and confident. It can also be a great way to relax and de-stress. When you care for yourself, you unconsciously hear the message that you’re worth taking care of. This can help you to feel better about yourself, even when you’re not in a relationship.
Spend time outside in nature
You might feel pressure from society to find a partner, or you might miss the companionship of another person. But, being single does not have to be a bad thing. There are many benefits to enjoying life as a single person. One way to make the most of being single is to spend time in nature. Being outside can help to soothe and calm you, and it can also provide a sense of perspective. When the beauty of nature surrounds you, you may find it easier to accept your single status. Furthermore, nature can be calming and soothing and help you appreciate independence.
Be patient with yourself
Be patient with yourself during this transition. It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or confused. These are all normal reactions when you’re in transition. Give yourself time to grieve the loss of your relationship and mourn the end of your partnership. But keep perspective and try not to dwell on the past too much. Remember that you’re not alone in this experience. Many others have been through a breakup or divorce and come out the other side. You can too.
Consider how you want to spend your single time
Being single provides opportunities many don’t have when they’re married or have a significant other. You can use this time to focus on your career, hobbies, or personal development.
For example, while single, you don’t have to worry about pleasing your partner or constantly coming to compromises. Such as what to eat, what to watch on TV, and how to spend your weekend.
As a single parent, it’s also an advantage to raise your children as you feel led to and not have another influence in your children’s life who may have different parenting values from you.
Maximize this season
So, if you are single and feeling overwhelmed by the task of raising children on your own, know that you are not alone. Many in your season are living it well. But, there are also many in their single season and not living it well. Which will you be?
Step into your current life stage. Find the positives and maximize them. Spend this season well.
Check out the Single Mom Overwhelmed No More Resource Vault for more tips and tools to help you find success as a single parent. And don’t forget to reach out for help when you need it – there are plenty of people who care about you and want to see you succeed.