What does it take to be happy with divorce, co-parenting, or solo-parenting, loss, and all the joys and stresses of parenting alone?
After years of working with single parents and a single mom myself, I began to find some commonalities of happy and content moms versus those who showed little joy each day.
5 Things You Should Stop Worrying About to Find Happiness
Happy Single Moms Don’t Worry About the News
There’s a difference between being up-to-date on what’s happening and receiving news alerts.
When you’re being inundated with depressing news all day long, your attitude will start to take a nosedive. God didn’t make us able to absorb all the world’s issues.
As a single parent, you have enough challenging issues on your plate. Don’t add to them.
Instead, try these ideas:
- Put a time limit on your phone for your news app.
- Set aside a specific time each day where you’ll allow yourself time to catch up on the news.
- Try going without the news for a period of time and see how you feel overall. If you’re afraid of missing something big, no worries. You’ll find out from co-workers or family.
- Subscribe to a news podcast or receive daily (or weekly) emails from a new source and stick to only consuming that. The Skimm is an example of a news source that summarizes all big news stories each day or week.
Happy Single Moms Don’t Worry About Money
Money issues are a big one and so hard to not worry about.
I remember hearing a sermon once where the pastor said he had counseled those with a million dollar plus income and those scrapping by with government assistance. It doesn’t matter how much or little people make – it’s never enough.
Regardless of how much money they make, happy single parents don’t worry about money. Worrying does not add money to your bank account. Instead, you need a plan for your finances.
What happy single moms do instead is track their finances and make wise money decisions.
Tracking finances means creating a budget, sticking to it, and reviewing as necessary. A budget helps you know the current status of your money. When we don’t know your bank balance or the state of your credit card, this causes anxiousness.
Wise money decisions mean that you either decide to save more or cut back with the full knowledge of your finances.
But once those decisions are made, happy people don’t worry about them because there is a plan to follow. It’s a choice to worry – even on a single income. Instead, work towards a plan.
Happy Single Moms Don’t Worry About What Other People Think
Happy people make decisions based on what’s best for themselves and their families. As a result, they don’t spend much time worrying about what other people think about them.
This includes their exes!
Happy people recognize that they will never please everyone. They understand some will like what they do and some won’t.
As long as they are at peace with their decision, they move on. In the end, we are all only accountable to God.
Happy Single Moms Don’t Worry About the Past
Happy people don’t waste a lot of time in the past. They don’t contemplate over what could have been or what should have been said. They don’t lament over what has already happened or what they missed out on.
Happy single moms realize the past is in the past. You can’t change history, but you can make an impact today.
Happy Single Moms Don’t Worry About the Future
Just as happy moms don’t worry about the past, they also don’t worry about the future.
There is a difference between worrying and planning. Planning for the future is wise but worrying about an outcome you can’t control isn’t worth your time.
Making wise decisions today will have a positive impact in the future. But aside from that, none of us know what the future will bring. Therefore, having a healthy perspective on the future and enjoying the present moment is vital.