How to be your best self again after the end of a relationship

When a relationship ends how do you become your best again and get your self-esteem back? By focusing on 4 key areas: Physically, Intellectually, Emotionally, and Spiritually that will help you overcome tough situations and focus on what you can control to transform your life.

Below is an overview of my interview with Kimberly of PIES University about how to be the best version of yourself. For the complete conversation, listen to podcast #45 of Grace for Single Parents wherever you listen to podcasts.

How to Find Yourself Again After the End of a Relationship

  • So many times when a marriage ends so much of a person’s identity is changed completely.
  • So much of our time, our effort as women and as moms is tied into what we do, and one of the things that I love to encourage women about is it’s okay to focus on you.

four Areas of Attraction – Your Key to Finding Your Best Self Again

There are 4 steps to falling in love and the first is attraction. But the physical part of attraction is only one aspect of attraction. And it’s not even the most important aspect of attraction.

The four areas are physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual.

1. Physical

The physical doesn’t have as much to do with how you look as how you feel inside. Do I feel good in my body or do I have pain? Do I have digestive issues? Do I have sleep problems? Am I stressed out?

When we begin to focus on feeling better, our confidence starts to increase. We feel better about ourselves. Our self-esteem can increase and we haven’t even changed how we look.

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2. Intellectual attraction

What are you learning? What are you continuing to expand your mind on? Are you reading? Are you listening to podcasts? Maybe you’re wanting to finish a degree that you’ve started, but never finished.

There’s another aspect of the intellectual attraction that has to do with controlling our thoughts. Replacing those negative thoughts and taking control of some of those worries and anxieties that we have and being intentional not being fake positive, but really being intentional on seeing the good things that are happening in life.

3. Emotional attraction

Emotional health is being able to treat myself and my actions with grace in a way that evokes positive emotions within me. If I’m stuck in a body and a mind that I don’t like to be around because of the things I’m saying to myself then people won’t want to be around me either. It’s the same with how we act towards other people.

4. Spiritual Attraction

Spiritual attraction is your beliefs and values. It doesn’t necessarily have to do with religion. Although religion has a huge influence on the beliefs and values that we have, our beliefs and values also come from childhood and the experiences that we’ve had throughout life.

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Working on Yourself to find a partner?

  • You have to work on yourself for you first to feel good about yourself, to get your confidence back, to find your identity.
  • There’s that phrase like attracts like. So if you’re continuing to work on being the best that you can be physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually, then you have a better opportunity to attract people. Whether that’s just friends romantically that are also going to be working on becoming the best that they can be physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually.

This was an overview of my interview with Kimberly of PIES University about how to be the best version of yourself. For the complete conversation, listen to podcast #45 of Grace for Single Parents wherever you listen to podcasts.

More about Kimberly and PIES university

More about PIES: https://piesuniversity.com/

How to be your best self again after the end of a relationship