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I was always very close with my mom, even though we didn’t have much growing up. She worked hard to take care of my dad and the whole family we were living in as a joined family- with my grandmother and grandfather.
I know it wasn’t always easy for her. But, I am so grateful for everything she did for me, and I know that I would not be the person I am today without her. She is my hero.
But for some reason, she was so frustrated with her life and decided that she was no longer willing to live with my dad and his parents.
Lessons Learned From Growing Up in a Single Parent Family
Blaming Others Will Not Solve Anything
I was only seven years old, and my parents were constantly arguing with each other every day. Even at seven, I could see that blaming each other did not solve anything. But, on the other hand- listening and understanding each other could do miracles within a family.
At that time, my parents were believers, but they were not active in their faith. They were not serving the Lord.
One day after an argument with my dad, my mom decided to leave us. I was not aware of what had caused her to make this decision, but she was not happy with my dad.
She left my younger sister- two years old, and me for about 18 months. Those months were like 18 years for me.
My dad began doing everything from cooking to changing my sister’s diapers. My grandmother tried to help my dad, but she was unable to take much off his plate due to her age.
My school days were horrible. I don’t even want to remember those days. But, looking back, I can see that Jesus never left me.
The biggest lesson of my life growing up with my dad was that if parents do not live their life in the light of the Word of God, we don’t have faith to turn to in bad times. The children will ultimately suffer, whether they live with a single mom or dad. And even living with both can make your life miserable if they are not walking in the light of God.
Eventually, my mother found an excellent pastor whose teaching influenced her so much that she wanted to come back and live with us again.
At this time, I was going through a great depression. I didn’t know how things would ever go back to normal.
Prayer was my only action. I am glad that my father had taught us to pray for all circumstances and in all conditions.
Prayers Have Power
I have seen the power of prayers within her own eyes. My dad got a new job where he was promoted to a branch manager, and things were getting better financially.
My mom was still thinking of coming back, and after two years of struggle, she decided to come back and stay with her two daughters. Eventually, my father joined us.
Listening By The Lord
Both my parents now live for the Lord, and He changed them entirely. Those 18 months of separation taught a big lesson to the complete family. We realized that the house only turns into a home if we show respect, love, and care for each other.
Like Jesus said in John 13:34: “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”
I had indeed seen the power of prayers. I would urge all to keep praying to restore their parent relationship and never give up hope.
Merry is a singer, songwriter, blogger, and recovering worship leader. For two years, Merry had the amazing opportunity to minister to Christian youth with her Mom, also serving as a Sunday school teacher. She loves spending time with her four sisters and both parents. She also enjoys traveling, photography, and playing with her two dogs.