18 Types of People Christians Should Avoid Marrying

SharePinEmailMarriage is an important sacrament in the Christian church, it is a commitment before God to share your life with another person. Although you shouldn’t try to control or judge other people, there are some personality types that you should avoid marrying. Being careful of the type of person you marry will help you practice…

Marriage is an important sacrament in the Christian church, it is a commitment before God to share your life with another person. Although you shouldn’t try to control or judge other people, there are some personality types that you should avoid marrying. Being careful of the type of person you marry will help you practice your faith and increase the chances of enjoying a long-term, happier marriage. 

The Indecisive

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While we can all have moments of indecision when we second-guess ourselves, it is best to avoid marrying someone indecisive. If the person you’re dating can’t decide if they want to be committed to you or your relationship is on and off repeatedly, this does not bode well for a good marriage. 

As Matthew says “Say simply yes or no; anything more than this comes from evil.” Your heart and soul are too valuable to be put in the hands of someone casual and indecisive.

The Proud

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There is nothing wrong with feeling happy with your accomplishments, but “pride goeth before a fall” is a popular Biblical saying. When people are immersed in pride, they have a false feeling of invincibility, which can cause them to act rashly. You don’t want to be married to someone self-centered who is bound to crash and burn. 

The Subtle Alcoholic

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Raging alcoholics are often viewed as poor marriage material, but there are some whose issues are more subtle. While they may not make a scene at parties or stumble around, if they can’t sit down without a drink or need alcohol to wind down after a day of work, that’s a red flag.

The Bible considers alcoholics to be ruining their lives and the alcohol leaves no room for God or a loving partner. 

The Addict

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In the modern world, there are so many temptations that addiction problems are on the rise. Whether your potential partner has a drug problem or is addicted to adult content, it can be damaging to relationships. Additionally, adult content addiction twists the beautiful concept of physical intimacy, warping sex into something degrading. 

The Angry

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We can all experience feelings of anger, and there is nothing wrong with this provided it is controlled and righteous. But this is rare for most people. Anger issues are quite common and you should be wary of marrying someone who has an inconsistent temper. If they can’t control their rage when having a heated discussion with family, how will they react during times of stress in your marriage or when your son or daughter is having difficulties with another child in their class?

The Jealous

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Envy and jealousy are extremely toxic, particularly in a relationship. It can be very manipulative when a partner says that they get jealous because they care. If you give your partner no reason to distrust you, but they second guess where you’re going, and who you speak to, it is a dangerous sign of an unhealthy relationship. 

The Lazy

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Christian beliefs are founded on sacrifice and service, so if your partner won’t do things around the house or anything to help you, it is unrealistic to expect them to identify with Christianity. While no one is perfect and everyone is entitled to relaxation time, if the core of the person is laziness, they are not able to put you and Christ above themselves. 

The Career Worshipper

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Hard work is an admirable trait and it is rooted in the Bible when God commanded Adam and Eve to tend to the Garden of Eden. But if someone worships their career, allowing everything else to take a backseat, you, the church, and Christianity become no longer a priority. 

You only need to imagine family events that are missed because of meetings or attending church services alone every week to see how it could impact the happiness of your marriage. 

The Spendthrift

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As we’ve discussed, Christianity is all about sacrifice and service, giving your heart, time, and money to show love. When someone fritters their money away, they are not only an unreliable provider for you and your family but could fall prey to materialism and be unable to give of themselves. 

The Rebel

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Being a rebel is common for teenagers to test their boundaries, but as an adult, if your potential partner has no respect for authority, it will not bode well for a happy marriage. This character trait is usually linked to pride, but it will make compromising on the issues that come up during your marriage almost impossible. 

The Overly Agreeable

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Many people assume that Christians are all meek and passive, but even good Christians can have disagreements. Being overly agreeable, particularly in a marriage, opens the door to dishonesty and resentment. If you can’t be honest with your husband or wife, your marriage will be an incredibly difficult road. 

Those Who Disregard the Vulnerable

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You can disagree on whether you want a cat or a dog or if you would prefer a larger family, but seeing how your potential partner treats the vulnerable can give a fantastic insight into their character. Whether this is children, animals, or the elderly, if they are not gentle or patient, they are not showcasing Christian values. 

The Non-Participant

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The community is an important part of Christian belief. It can replenish your faith and strengthen your relationship with God if you attend services and participate in community events. If you marry someone unwilling to participate, that will put your relationship under immense strain. 

Those Who Dismiss Your Feelings

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Empathy is an important part of Christian belief. It helps us to love and appreciate others. If you marry someone who continually dismisses your opinions or feelings, they are not showing empathy, which is contrary to the Christian faith. 

The Narcissist

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Good Christians put God before themselves, but in a marriage, your husband or wife should also put you before them. Narcissists love themselves first and foremost, which does not make for a good life partner or Christian. As Timothy says, lovers of themselves deny the power of God. 

The Unfaithful

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This should go without saying, but someone unfaithful will not make a good life partner. Marriage is a sacrament and cheating not only breaks the bonds of trust but also may lead you into sin. 

The Sinner

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While it is possible to have friendships with those who engage in sin, marrying someone who has no regard for the concept of sin can be problematic from the start. 

The Unbeliever

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Finally, you should avoid marrying the unbeliever. There will be times when your marriage is hard, but having a deep, shared spiritual connection can provide invaluable support. As it says in Corrinthians, “What do righteousness and wickedness have in common?”

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