18 Wrong Assumptions About What Defines a ‘Good’ Christian

SharePinEmailOne of the reasons why many people struggle with the concept of a “good” Christian is that there are numerous false beliefs. This can make it not only difficult to follow the Christian path yourself, but it can also prevent you from connecting with others. So, here we’ll dispel some of these false beliefs. Good…

One of the reasons why many people struggle with the concept of a “good” Christian is that there are numerous false beliefs. This can make it not only difficult to follow the Christian path yourself, but it can also prevent you from connecting with others. So, here we’ll dispel some of these false beliefs.

Good Christians are Perfect:

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It is very easy to create an image of the good Christian being a perfect, loving person. But while Christians may strive to be like Jesus, everyone has imperfections. In fact, it is these imperfections that help us to grow and provide the opportunity to forgive. 

They Have All the Answers:

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There is a popular, but false belief that good Christians have perfectly sorted lives and have all the answers to life’s questions. Many people assume that good Christians live with perfect relationships that are free of difficulties and conflicts. 

The truth is that no one has all the answers and admitting this uncertainty actually creates space to experience spiritual growth. 

There Are No Doubts:

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Even good Christians have periods where they struggle with doubt and question their faith. Seeking truth and asking some tough questions is vital to develop more resilient faith. 

While it may appear that good Christians are free of all doubts, it is only by embracing the struggles that they can seek a deeper sense of belief.

Good Christians Live in Sinless Perfection:

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There is an expectation that good Christians are never tempted by sin, but this is an unrealistic assessment of human fallibility. This false belief can actually be quite harmful, as many people striving to become good Christians can feel inadequate or embarrassed if they fall short of this expectation. 

It is far healthier to acknowledge our human imperfections and appreciate that God’s grace can forgive any sins or transgressions. 

There is a Rules Checklist:

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Many people think that Good Christians have been handed a list of strict rules that they need to stick to throughout their lives. While there are principles and guidelines in the Bible, these are simply guidance to help you develop a deeper connection with God. So, rather than focus on a rigid approach to a long list of rules, it is better to just be open to God in all the aspects of your life. 

Positivity is Mandatory:

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Another false belief is that a good Christian never expresses negative emotions and maintains a positive outlook regardless of what is happening in their lives. This actually goes against the lessons in the Bible about honesty. 

Denying feelings of sadness, fear, doubt or anger is not helpful and many Christians find comfort in sharing their struggles and victories within their community. 

There are No Mental Health Struggles:

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This follows on from the previous false belief, but even good Christians are not immune from mental health issues. There is a mental health stigma both inside and outside the church that issues are a sign of spiritual deficiency or weakness. But, addressing mental health issues actually require support, understanding and compassion, which are all values embodied in a good Christian. 

A Good Christian Always Feels a Close Connection to God:

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Another common false belief is that good Christians continually feel a close connection to God. The reality is that even good Christians experience periods of both distance and closeness, which is no indication of a lack of faith. Instead, this is simply an ebb and flow of the spiritual experience that provides an opportunity to deepen faith. 

Church Attendance is Mandatory Every Week:

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While attending church can be a fantastic way to feel part of the community, and celebrate your faith, the “rule” that you have to go every single week can create an obligation that you may grow to resent. 

The Christian community is more than just Sunday services, and although worship is valuable, prioritizing a genuine connection is far more important. 

No Feelings of Anger For God:

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Many people believe that feeling frustration or anger towards God is a sin that can separate you from God’s grace and love. The reality is that ignoring or suppressing these feelings can actually prevent you from discovering God in new ways. 

In fact, in the Bible, there are lots of examples of individuals expressing anger with God, including Jesus himself. 

In times of distress, being honest and authentic can actually be helpful to better appreciate the complexity and depth of our relationship with God. 

Bad Things Won’t Happen to Good Christians:

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Some Christians believe that if they live a godly life, they will be protected from all suffering and pain. Unfortunately, even good Christians are not immune to bad things. You only have to read the Bible to discover that many good people suffered a great deal. 

Good Christians are No Fun!

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Many people assume that good Christians live a joyless existence and are simply no fun. But, God actually intends for us to live an abundant life filled with unique adventures. 

Good Christians Never Offend:

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While the words humility and meek are often used in connection with good Christians, this does not mean that they would never say anything that could hurt someone’s feelings. 

In fact, many Christians believe in “tough love” and are compelled to say things that may offend to help guide them back to God. 

No Association with Non Believers:

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While breaking off unhealthy relationships from a past life of sin is often a very good idea, this doesn’t mean that you can’t have friendships with non-believers. Provided that you can resist the temptations, particularly if your previous lifestyle was unhealthy, building relationships with sinners could inspire them to make positive changes. 

Good Christians Don’t Believe in Science:

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Many people have the belief that good Christians are anti-science and don’t believe in any scientific discoveries. But, there are actually some very famous scientists throughout history that were devout Christians. 

Christians are not typically hostile towards science as most of the field does not address faith and has little to do with the messages in the Bible. 

They Are Out of Touch:

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Another common false belief about Christians in general is that they are out of touch with the modern world. After all, if a book that is thousands of years old, how can it have relevance today? 

But it is important to note that God does not change and the moral values in the Bible remain the same. 

Good Christians Oppress Other People’s Freedoms:

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This false belief builds on the fallacy that Christians are rigid about rules. There is an assumption that those who love rules are sure to be killjoys and oppress the freedom of other people. In fact, oppression is the opposite of God’s word, which aims to provide fulfillment and meaning to our lives.

There is a Dislike of Anyone Who Disagrees:

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Finally, there is a false belief that good Christians dislike anyone who disagrees with the Christian belief system. In truth, Christians are not taught to hate and should be tolerant of sin. The phrase from St Augustine comes to mind and we should always strive to “love the sinner, hate the sin.” 

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